Husband Material
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
Episodes
289 episodes
What Your Wife Needs When You Relapse (with Tammy Gustafson)
What does your wife need when you relapse into porn, unwanted sexual behavior, and breaking her trust? Tammy Gustafson explains what is going on inside your wife when you relapse, how you can helpful rather than hurtful, and why it's wise...
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Compassion For My Face: HMA Psychodrama Example
In this live demo, Doug Carpenter guides Rick Carlson in healing childhood trauma through psychodrama. This episode is an example of Work It Out Wednesday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this weekend at
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Understanding External & Internal Family Systems To Outgrow Porn
Learn how external & internal family systems have shaped your sexuality—and what's happening inside you when you feel the pull of pornography. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day" as a preview of the Husband Material Academy video co...
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The Guy In The Locker Room: HMA Fantasy Friday Example
In this episode, Drew Boa helps Jordan Castille process a sexual fantasy about a guy in a locker room. This is a demonstration of Fantasy Friday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this week at
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How To Face Your Sexual Fantasies: Arousal vs. Desire
Learn how to face your sexual fantasies and process the particularity of what sexually arouses you. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day" as a preview of the Husband Material Academy video course.
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New Stats On Porn Use Among Christians (with Nick Stumbo)
75% of Christian men and 40% of Christian women watch porn on a regular basis, but only 21% wish they didn't. Nick Stumbo shares these stats and other major findings of Beyond The Porn Phenomenon, a new research report produced by Barna and Pur...
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Make Sense Of Your Sexual Story (with Adam Young)
You have a story. Your sexuality has a story. Adam Young explains why and how to engage your sexual story: desires and disappointments, arousal, emotions, shame, abuse, and your war with hope. Adam also gives us a preview of the workshop he wil...
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Recovering From Purity Culture (with Dr. Camden Morgante)
Why is purity culture harmful, and how can we heal from it? Dr. Camden Morgante explains what purity culture is, where it came from, and how to let go of toxic beliefs without letting go of your faith. Stay until the end to hear Dr. Camden's be...
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How To Stop Hiding And Lying
Why do we hide and lie? How can we stop? This episode will help you feel safe enough to tell the truth—or at least a little safer. I'll lead you in an experiential exercise, similar to what I facilitate in Husband ...
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Sexualized Attachment (with Dr. Floyd Godfrey)
When emotional energy and sexual energy fuse together, sexualized attachment is the result. In this episode, Dr. Floyd Godfrey describes the dynamics of sexualized attachment and his personal story of healing and recovery.Dr. Floyd Godf...
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The Science Of Attachment (with Michael John Cusick)
What exactly is attachment? How does it relate to addiction? Michael John Cusick explains why we need to feel seen, soothed, safe, and secure, and what it looks like to experience attachment with God. At the end, Michael guides us in a beautifu...
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Announcing Husband Material Ministries!
Exciting news: this podcast is now part of Husband Material Ministries, a Colorado nonprofit corporation! From now on, we are relying on people like you to make resources like this podcast possible (and free) so that more Christian men can outg...
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Play, Awe, & Porn Addiction: A Polyvagal Perspective
In this episode, you'll learn two powerful antidotes for porn addiction: play and awe. Ready for a deep dive into neuroscience? According to Polyvagal Theory, play and awe are both "blended states" that regulate your autonomic nervous system th...
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Own Your Identity (with Jason Mellard)
Don't let unwanted same-sex attraction hold you back from a life of purpose and possibility. In this episode, Jason Mellard tells his story of feeling separate from masculinity and how that affected him sexually. Hear how Jason found lasting fr...
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The Fear And Power Of Being Vulnerable (with Trent Dollyhigh)
Have you ever felt afraid to be vulnerable? Me too! In this episode, Trent Dollyhigh tells his story of childhood trauma, porn, pastoral ministry, prison, rehab, and a new life of redemptive risks. Here is a man who lost the world and gained hi...
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Inside Out 2 And Porn
What can Inside Out 2 teach us about outgrowing porn? I’ll share my top three takeaways. Spoiler alert: important plot details will be revealed. Related episodes about Internal Family Systems (IFS):
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How Women Heal From Sexual Betrayal Trauma (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)
What are the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal? In part 2 of our series with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket, you'll get a helpful overview of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). You'll also learn the difference bet...
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When A Wife Discovers Her Husband's Porn (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)
What happens to the brain and body of a wife who discovers her husband's relationship with porn? This is part 1 of our 2 part series on the trauma of sexual betrayal taught by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket. You'll learn why wives reac...
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Excluded And Emasculated (Sermon on Acts 8:26-40)
Through the story of Philip and the Ethiopian eunuch, you'll hear how Jesus heals sexual shame, childhood trauma, systemic injustice, and the agonizing experience of being excluded and emasculated. If I could sum it up in two words: you belo...
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Building Community Beyond Same-Sex Attraction And Opposite-Sex Attraction (with Drew, Henry, Jason, and Jordan)
We all experience sexual attraction differently (SSA, OSA, etc). In this episode, we explore the benefits, challenges, and limitations of forming deep friendships with men who experience different types of sexual attraction.Drew Boa is ...
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Same-Sex Attraction Stereotypes (with Jordan Castille)
How do you view men who experience same-sex attraction (SSA)? In this episode, Jordan Castille and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who are sexually attracted to men.Jordan Castille is a Board Certified Christian Counselor,...
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Opposite-Sex Attraction Stereotypes (with Jason Pidcock)
How do you view men who experience opposite-sex attraction (OSA)? In this episode, Jason Pidcock and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who are sexually attracted to women.Jason Pidcock is a Certified Trauma Informed Recovery...
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Why Doesn't God Remove My Sexual Thoughts And Feelings? (LIVE)
If you've spent years wishing your sexual thoughts and feelings would go away, this episode is for you. Related resources:Unwanted, by Jay Stringer (paid link)
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How To Develop Empathy For Your Wife (with Nathaniel Gustafson)
Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way she is more likely to trust. You'll learn how to stay out of shame, keep the spotlight on her, and p...
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