Husband Material
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
Episodes
384 episodes
What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)
How can a husband help his wife during a trigger? Tammy Gustafson reveals what triggers are, how they affect your wife's brain, and what she needs after a trigger tornado has passed. Discover how her triggers can become opportunities for healin...
Healing Through Artwork and Storywork (with Philip Leach and John Kilmer)
What happens when you combine storywork, artwork, and Jesus? Witness powerful healing in this live demonstration of HMA Coaching! As Drew shares a story of difficulty, chalk artisan Philip Leach creates a visual representation while coach John ...
12 Reasons To Stop Shaming Yourself
Learn 12 reasons why shaming yourself doesn't help, what's more powerful than shame, and what you can do instead of shaming yourself.
How To Help Your Partner Heal (with Carol Sheets)
How can I help my partner heal from the impact of my porn and sex addiction? Psychotherapist and author Carol Sheets reveals what sexually betrayed partners need most, and how you can "help her heal" when you create safety, practice empathy, of...
Blessing vs. Cursing Yourself & The Story Behind Your Porn (with Chris Bruno)
How do you shift from self-condemnation to self-compassion? Chris Bruno reveals how to discover the story behind your struggle with porn. You'll learn what it looks like to rediscover your true "masterpiece-ness" even in the throes of a porn re...
How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)
What can sexual fantasies teach us? How should we analyze them? In this episode, Drew and Doug vulnerably share and analyze each other's sexual fantasies so you can understand what this work practically looks like and how to do it well.T...
Introduction To Sexual Symbolism
What desires are commonly symbolized by the penis, breasts, kissing, oral sex, nudity, diapers, and feet? Find out in this short and sweet introduction!Related episodes:
Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach (with Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson)
What is the Immanuel Approach? How can it help Christian men outgrow porn? Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson unpack this amazing way to change your brain and heal your heart through connecting with Jesus experientially. You'll also hear a refresh...
Can Medication Help Me Outgrow Porn? (with Adam O'Neill)
What if certain kinds of medication can make it easier to outgrow porn? Adam O'Neill unpacks the benefits and drawbacks of supplementing your sexual recovery with medication such as naltrexone. You'll get wisdom about what to expect and how to ...
What Is A Pornographic Approach To Recovery?
How has porn impacted your approach to recovery? Learn 7 pornographic styles of recovery and what healthy recovery looks like instead.Pornographic recovery is:isolatedescapistavoiding painimpatient<...
Helping Men Feel Safe To Open Up And Heal From Trauma (with Dr. James Reeves)
What helps men feel safe to open up and heal from trauma? Dr. James Reeves (the pirate pastor) tells the story of facing his childhood wounds, building a hospital church, and creating the Fearless Series—which is fantastic!
How Porn Recovery Can Transform Your Church (with Sam Black)
What if your church was a safe space to outgrow porn? Sam Black explains how porn recovery ministry leads to less work for pastors, more generous donors, more passionate volunteers, and a legacy of health for the next generation. Sa...
How To Escape Creepy Conversations Before Sexting
Have you ever felt uncomfortable or unsafe while chatting online? In this episode, I’ll share practical tips on how to escape creepy conversations… and 5 reasons why we sometimes don’t. At the end, you’ll hear real-life examples of how I have r...
Healing From Rejection, Racism, And Betrayal (with Roy Kim)
Have you ever been rejected? Roy Kim explains how rejection and internalized racism drove him to pornography. He also opens up about what it's like to struggle with with porn as a pastor—and as a male betrayed partner. Roy offers real hope thro...
Porn And Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (with Andrew Loyd)
Do you know what it's like to struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) in addition to porn? Andrew Loyd does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Andrew unpacks how OCD and unwanted sexual behavior can be related...
David’s Sexual Story (Sermon)
Who was David—the boy, the king, the sex offender? In this episode, you’ll see David’s sexual story from a new angle. You'll also get a taste of church with Husband Material Men through the dramatic reading of Scripture, confession of sin, assu...
Reintegrative Therapy (with Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr.)
What is reintegrative therapy? Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr. explains his approach to treating trauma and how it can help men outgrow porn. Joseph also shares insights about sexual attraction, sexual development, euphoric recall, and the importance o...
What To Do When You Feel The Urge To Watch Porn (with Dan Johnson)
How do you handle the intense urge to watch porn? This was Dan Johnson's dilemma. Dan struggled with porn for over 20 years. After re-confessing to his wife, putting filters on all his devices, joining a community of other men, and seeing a cer...
How To Heal Shame And Self-Contempt
Have you ever struggled with shame or self-contempt? In this episode, you'll learn the simple formula for healing shame through vulnerability and connection. You'll also hear a vulnerable, shame-filled part of my story I've never shared publicl...
Appropriate Touch Between Men (LIVE)
Touch is one of our most basic human needs. But many of us have been deprived. How can men outgrowing porn embrace healthy physical touch with each other—and prevent harm? Find out in this panel discussion with Certified Husband Material Coache...
Healing Your Marriage After Gay Porn (with Tamara Lichfield)
This episode answers unique questions for married men who have sexually acted out with gay porn or other men. You'll learn what partners go through upon discovery of gay porn, why transparency matters, and how we can pursue connection with othe...
The Inner Child Challenge Workshop (LIVE)
In this workshop led by Drew Boa, you'll learn how to connect with your inner child like never before. To complete the exercises, you will need:A piece of paper (digital documents will NOT work for this)3 differ...
Why You Need A Recovery Action Plan (with Nick Stumbo & Trevor Winsor)
How do you take action after relapse for growth and healing without using shame or punishment? After a porn relapse, what do appropriate consequences look like?Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor are members of the Executive Team at
From Rock Bottom To Recovery Coach (with George Morning)
In this episode, you'll hear the inspiring story of George Morning ("Coach G"). We talk about the challenges faced by black men and men of color in outgrowing porn—and how societal pressures, misconceptions, and the normalization of addiction i...
