Husband Material
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
Episodes
384 episodes
How Porn Fuels Sex Trafficking (with Benji Nolot)
In this episode, you'll learn four ways pornography fuels sex trafficking...and what we can do about it. Award-winning filmmaker Benji Nolot reveals what goes on behind the scenes of pornography. Benji Nolot is committed to the abol...
Sexual Fluidity And Sexual Plasticity
In this episode, you'll learn two concepts that can give you less shame and more hope on your journey of outgrowing porn. Resources mentioned in this episode:
What Types Of Change Are Possible? (with Rich Wyler)
In this episode, Rich Wyler answers tough questions with curiosity, compassion, and courage. You'll learn what it looks like to work through internal conflict around sexual arousal and personal beliefs. You'll also learn why unconditional love ...
Habits That Heal (with Shawn Bonneteau)
What habits are most helpful for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau presents a beautiful menu of ideas to transform habits without pressure, perfectionism, or "shoulding" all over yourself in 2023.Shawn Bonnet...
Becoming Porn Free In 2023
In this episode, I'll recommend 3 resources to help you outgrow porn in 2023. Stay til the end to hear a big announcement about HMA (the doors are closing). As promised, here are my top 5 episodes of Husband Material: ...
How Do I Help My Hurting Spouse? (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)
How can I help my partner heal? When she is "throwing rocks" at me, what can I do? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci shares 10 rules for healthy interaction with your grieving partner: 10 Rules: 1. No Explaining 2. No Surpri...
Emotional Fitness (with Sathiya Sam)
What's the difference between emotional health and emotional fitness? Why does it matter? In this episode, Sathiya Sam explains what emotional fitness looks like and how you can leverage the added stress of the holiday season to become stronger...
How To Be A Great Lover (with Dr. Keith Gregoire)
What does it take to unlock a woman's sexual pleasure? Dr. Keith Gregoire explains how sex actually works, why we need to redefine sex, and how men can become better lovers.Keith Gregoire is a pediatrician who is passionate about buildi...
Authentic Manhood (with Dr. Joe Martin)
What is a real man? Dr. Joe Martin exposes the lies we believe about our value as men, in contrast to the example of authentic manhood set by Jesus Christ.Wrong perceptions of manhood (what society says):OccupationC...
What If I'm Sexually Attracted To Myself?
Have you been sexually attracted to yourself, or someone just like you? In this episode, you'll learn three types of self-attraction, my own personal story, and what to do if you are sexually attracted to yourself.Come to my workshop "W...
Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)
What's it like to be a male survivor of sexual abuse? In our very first community-based episode, Husband Material men tell their stories of sexual abuse. You'll learn how to respond appropriately to the needs of male survivors.Mike Chap...
Find The Boy Within The Man (with Chris Bruno)
Is there really a boy inside every man? What does "healing the boy" practically look like? Chris Bruno delightfully demonstrates how to find your younger self and bring him home. This interview is amazing! You'll come away with greater awarenes...
How To Break Up With Porn
Outgrowing porn is not easy. The process is often messy and prolonged. That's why some men have found value in writing a formal break-up letter to pornography. This episode will give you a simple structure to write your own break-up letter. You...
Emotional Safety (with Alex Avila)
"Our most vital relational need is to be emotionally safe...we cannot truly connect with anyone if we don't feel safe in their presence." —Alex Avila But what is emotional safety, exactly? How can you tell if a person or relationship is...
How Can Fathers And Sons Outgrow Porn Together? (with John Fort and Lucas Fort)
"Your failure in sexuality is what qualifies you to talk to your son about sex in the first place." In this fascinating episode, a father and son tell their story of learning to talk about emotions and sex together. John and Lucas Fort explain ...
Is Covenant Eyes "Shameware"?
Anti-porn accountability software has come under scrutiny after an article in WIRED Magazine described Covenant Eyes as "shameware" and "just another way the church controls you.” In this episode, you'll hear what's going on, what I think about...
From Pain To Purpose (with Rick Carlson)
Rick Carlson spent years running from pain, hiding from others, and hating God... until everything changed. In this episode, Rick shares his story of prenatal trauma, physical differences, self-hatred, substance abuse, porn use, and his healing...
Porn, Anxiety, And Depression (with Ben Bennett)
Do you know what it's like to struggle with depression or anxiety in addition to porn? Ben Bennett does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Ben unpacks how mental health challenges and unwanted sexual behavior are relate...
The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)
Listen to my sermon about embodied brotherhood from the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara. Psalm 133 (NIV 1984)"How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity! I...
Wisdom After Sexual Betrayal (with Marnie Ferree)
Marnie Ferree understands sex addiction from both sides: from personal experience, and from being a partner. In this episode, Marnie shares her story of grief and growth after discovering her own sexual betrayal trauma.Marnie Ferree is ...
Healing From Sexual Betrayal (with Dr. Sheri Keffer)
What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) work? Dr. Sheri Keffer explains how porn impacts partners—and more importantly, what we can do about ...
Attunement: The Key To Connection
Attunement is the ability to be aware of and respond to another person's needs—and our own needs, too. In this episode, you'll learn the building blocks of good attunement, why over-attunement is unhelpful and exhausting, and how to pract...
Bent On Men, Part 2 (with Harrison Bly)
What does redemption look like for men who experience unwanted same-sex attraction? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares his story of freedom through vulnerability, sonship, b...
Bent On Men, Part 1 (with Harrison Bly)
What does it look like to untangle unwanted same-sex attraction toward men? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be gay." In this episode, Harrison shares vulnerable stories from boyhood that shed light on why and how...
What Does The Bible Say About Purity? (LIVE)
The word "purity" must be defined without the damaging messages of purity culture. In this episode, I'll explain 3 types of purity in the Bible. I'll also share a vulnerable story about my own lack of purity. Then at the end, I'll answer questi...