Husband Material
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
Episodes
384 episodes
Healthy Male Friendship (with Drew, Stephen, Marcus, and Doug)
Why is it so hard to make friends with other men? How can we go deep and get close without getting inappropriate? What about physical touch? Many of us never learned these things. If you long for deep, satisfying brotherhood in Christ, this epi...
Your Brain Off Porn (with Greg Oliver)
Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answer these questions with sharp insights from neuroscience and Scripture.Dopamine & ...
The Pirate & The Monk (with Nate Larkin)
One of my all-time favorite storytellers is Nate Larkin. In this episode, Nate tells his whole story. You'll hear how he failed as a Pharisee, how he came out of hiding, what he is struggling with right now, and how to do the 4-point check-in h...
Theology of the Testicles
What is God's design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised! This episode is a follow-up to a previous episode: Theo...
What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell)
Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell introduces the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography...
From Crisis To Closeness (with Clinton and Charity Muñoz)
This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than eve...
Bullying And The Inner Critic (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)
The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter expla...
Master Your Nervous System (LIVE)
What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn.You can find a visu...
Healing Mother Wounds (with Dan Hitz)
What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother wounds, how they impacted his sexuality, and what the Lord has done to alleviate his anger, re...
Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson)
What is God's purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Williamson for a candid conversation about God, men, and embodied brotherhood.Jeremy Williamso...
Emotional Times And Seasons
Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your em...
Psychology And Spirituality (with Dr. Ken McGill)
How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering these questions for decades. In this episode, Dr. Ken offers a perspective on sex addiction th...
How To Measure Freedom From Porn (LIVE)
Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, there is! In this episode, I'll share the 4 levels of freedom from porn, how to evaluate ...
Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual Abuse (with Wendell Moss)
Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-enactment (noun): the acting out of a past event." Therapist and licensed mental health counselor W...
Healing Brother Wounds (with Marcus Spaur)
Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lack of any relationships at all. Marcus Spaur knows what it's like to be scarred by a sibling, a...
Unwanted Sexual Attraction
Let's change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you're sexually attracted to, this episode is for you. What can we do with unwanted sexual attraction? 1. Talk about it 2. U...
The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction (with Shawn Bonneteau)
Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practic...
Embrace Conflict (with Jay Stringer)
Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therapist Jay Stringer. I recommend Jay's book more than any other (this is a paid link):
BONUS: Drew's Spiritual Warfare Song
Listen to this short clip on repeat to memorize Ephesians 6:10-17.
Seven Strategies For Spiritual Warfare (LIVE)
We are not in a war against sexuality (which is good); we are in a war against evil. Come learn 7 strategies for spiritual warfare based on the Temptation of Jesus in Matthew 4:1-11... and hear my special spiritual warfare song! Downloa...
Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Porn (with Adam King and Karissa King)
In a marriage devastated by porn, when and how should sex come back into the picture? In part two of this two-part series, Adam King and Karissa King explain how to slowly but surely restore sexual intimacy to be better than it ever was before....
Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy After Porn (with Adam King and Karissa King)
In a marriage devastated by porn, how do you rebuild trust? In part one of this two part series, Adam King and Karissa King share the 5 steps every couple must take to rebuild trust (for both spouses).Download the free PDF guide here: <...
The Art Of Affirmation (with Stephen Thomas)
We believe practicing verbal affirmation is absolutely essential to outgrowing porn. In this episode, Drew and Stephen will tell you why, and share practical strategies for how (not) to do it.Qualities Of Effective Affirmation:
