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Welcome to the Husband Material podcast, where we help Christian men outgrow porn. Why? So you can change your brain, heal your heart and save your relationship. My name is Drew Boa and I'm here to show you how let's go. Today, we are talking about corgasms. Corgasms, or abgasms, are exercise-induced orgasms. What a spicy topic. In this short episode, you will learn what they are, how I discovered them, how to have a corgasm although there are no guarantees and why corgasms can be especially helpful for some men, especially men outgrowing porn. Trigger warning this episode will be more graphic than usual and may be triggering for some listeners.

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First of all, what is a corgasm? A corgasm, also known as an abgasm, is induced by exercise, usually abdominal exercises like sit-ups or crunches. Yet they can also happen during yoga or even while riding a bike. A corgasm is one of the few ways to experience sexual pleasure indirectly, with no mental imagery involved, without directly stimulating your genitals, without even touching erogenous zones. A corgasm is purely the result of muscles contracting the tension and the energy, with literally no hands involved, no thoughts involved, just doing a core workout. Now, most people are not even aware that coregasms are possible. So how did I discover them?

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Well, as a college student, my sex drive was at an all-time high, while my frequency of orgasms was at an all-time low. While I was getting free from porn and masturbation I would regularly go multiple months at a time without ejaculating. So naturally I experienced a lot of buildup of semen, which would often release naturally through nocturnal emissions, also known as wet dreams. Sometimes semen would appear in my urine. Our bodies naturally have mechanisms to release buildup and one of those mechanisms I discovered is through working out During this season of life. Sometimes I would go to the gym and in the middle of certain ab exercises I would feel this strange tension in my groin area. It wasn't quite pleasure, it wasn't quite pain, and if I kept going with the workout that tension would grow until eventually I would ejaculate right there in my gym shorts, in the middle of the gym. Thankfully I had dark gym shorts so it wasn't overtly obvious to everyone. And this would happen even if I wasn't trying to stimulate myself. I wouldn't be thinking about anyone or anything sexually arousing. I would simply be counting off the reps of my workout One, two, three, four and the rhythm would intensify. This was so surprising to me. I had no idea that it was even possible to reach orgasm without manually stimulating myself, without sexual fantasy, without masturbation. This was a totally different experience. There were no sexually arousing thoughts, there was no cycle of addiction. Eventually I learned to predict what exercises would produce this effect. It was just a natural, normal part of life. It was helpful to have this outlet, if I look back on, not just whether the behavior was right or wrong, but who was I becoming at that time? I was becoming a man who was responsible for managing my sexual energy and not going back to the cycle of shame and sexually acting out.

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And although I didn't want corgasms to become a new addiction, I did see value in allowing them to happen naturally, and sometimes they happened very unexpectedly. One time in particular, during my junior year at Wheaton College, a few friends and I thought it would be fun to go to an early morning Pilates Three young men surrounded by over 20 women in a yoga studio. I remember we were down on all fours doing leg extensions and I started to feel those muscles contracting vigorously than everyone else in the room and the instructor noticed and she said you don't have to do it quite so hard. And I said, okay, okay, little did she know that I had a corgasm right there, in the middle of everyone. I don't think people noticed. I hope they didn't notice. I remember walking out of that room and thinking what just happened to me. I look back on that experience and I chuckle, and the fact that I actually didn't want to have a corgasm in that moment reinforces the truth that this is purely physical.

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Now, although there are no guarantees for exactly what to do in order to experience a corgasm, here's my advice if you're interested in this and you want to see if it might be possible for you, in order to allow semen to build up within your system, don't have sex or masturbate to orgasm for one to two months. I realize for some men that might sound extremely difficult or unrealistic. I guarantee you, if you go that long, you will be okay, you will be fine and your body will likely be ready to naturally release semen even without masturbating. With that said, you may still be able to experience this without one to two months of abstinence. The next step is to do a core workout.

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The core exercises that most reliably led to corgasms for me were leg raises, sit-ups, bicycle crunches and using an ab wheel. In leg raises, you hang from a bar and lift your knees up to your chest as high as they can go multiple times. For sit-ups, I found it most effective to use a sit-up bench. That would lock in my feet and legs so that my upper body could move even farther back and come even farther forward. For me, bicycle crunches have been especially effective. To do a bicycle crunch, lie down on the ground on your back and put your feet in the air. Then pedal your feet in circles as if you're riding a bicycle, and as you are pedaling this invisible bicycle, you move your elbows to touch your knees as well. Look up bicycle crunches if you want to learn how to do it Specifically bicycle crunches if you want to learn how to do it Specifically. What increased the tension in my muscles the most was slowing the exercise down and lengthening my legs all the way out until they were fully extended. So it was specifically slower, longer bicycle crunches that resulted in an orgasm for me. And the exercise that started it all for me was using an ab wheel, also known as an ab roller, which is a little wheel with two handles on it. I would kneel down on the ground, put the ab wheel in front of me and then extend it, rolling it out as far as I could before bringing it back in and coming up to my kneel position. You can look up any of these exercises online leg raises, sit-ups, bicycle crunches using an ab wheel, and there may be even more exercises that I haven't tried yet.

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Now, if you put yourself in a position to experience a corgasm in one of the situations I just described, it may be that nothing happens for you, or it may be that this exercise increases your sexual temptation or it becomes part of an addictive cycle. Each of us is a unique bio-individual, and the question I want you to ask yourself if you try this out is this who am I becoming? Are you becoming someone who's more aware of your body and what it can do? Are you becoming someone who's looking for an excuse to sexually act out? Are you becoming someone who is stewarding his sexuality with wisdom and kindness towards yourself? If you're married, is this helping you become a better husband? Personally, I don't seek out corgasms anymore because I know that it's not my wife's preference, so I don't do it, and if I am doing a core workout or I anticipate that this might happen, I'll check in with her ahead of time, because I don't want this to become a secret, something that I hide from her.

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Whether you're single or married, here's how I see orgasms being potentially helpful for sexual recovery. If you are in a context where you have a ton of sexual energy and you feel like you have nowhere to put it, this is a natural sexual release without masturbation, fantasy or lust. Literally, what goes through my mind during a corgasm is nothing more than counting the reps 13, 14, 15, 16. I know people have all kinds of views on masturbation and whether it's healthy or unhealthy, sinful or not, this is the most bland, benign version of masturbation I've ever experienced no hands involved, no thoughts involved, sometimes no intention involved, simply physical muscles moving. And the main reason I see value in orgasms for men outgrowing porn is to help you deal with the withdrawal symptoms.

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When you go without porn or masturbation to orgasm for one week, two weeks, three weeks, many men experience physical, visceral withdrawal symptoms. Giving up porn can be physically painful. Pressure can build up sexually. Many men experience what is known as blue balls or epididymal hypertension, and it hurts, it's tough. So to have a natural release that's separate from the sexual addiction cycle can be a gift If you're looking for a sexual outlet that runs on a completely different set of neuropathways than porn and fantasy. This might be it for you.

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For so many guys it feels nearly impossible to separate masturbation from fantasy and lust. The most reliable way I know how to do that is through having a corgasm. I realize this is not for everyone. It may not be possible for everyone, and in my life it doesn't make sense anymore. And although corgasms were a regular part of my life in my early 20s, they're not part of my life now and I don't miss them. I'm totally okay without it, and even if you never have a corgasm, you will be just fine. I hope this episode has not only given you some eye-opening information, but also imagination to explore how God made your body to do things that maybe you didn't think it could do. In any case, I would love to hear your feedback, any questions or comments you have about this in the Husband Material community, which you can join at husbandmaterialcom. Always remember you are God's beloved son and you he is well pleased.